once there was a girl, youngest of the family. You would think in the early 60's ( when she became a woman) her mother or sisters would have told her a few things. But sometimes they all think that each other have told the young girl what she needed to know about some facts of life. Like the onset of menarche. This girl woke up one morning and thought she was bleeding to death, panic stricken runs into her mothers room, crying and scared, to be told "its ok, it's your period, here is a sanitary pad and keep away from the boys". Nothing about pms, cramps, all the lovely aspects of a period. So a few years go by, and boys become of great interest. At 16 she still did not have a clue what sex was all about. She had heard her mother say once that if a woman got a "hickey" she must be having sex. The girl was 13 and really didn't understand what was said. Shortly after she asked a local boy about hickeys and he gave her one. She promptly went home and announced she was pregnant. Even after that, no one told her what went on during sex. Then the girl got a boyfriend when she was 16, they dated for 6 months, usually with other couples. One of the other boys was not getting along with his girlfriend, so he concocted this scheme to make her jealous, and since the heroine of our story wanted her boyfriend to say he loves her, she went along with the scheme to make her boyfriend jealous, and the two started dating. Well, our girl's boy friend told her he loved her, but the other fellow's girl did not. The girl went back with her first boyfriend, but the other guy could not stand it , so he stalked her, and raped her. And she became pregnant because he threatened her family's life if she told anyone. Being 16 and pretty naive, she kept her mouth shut. But ,, the belly will out, as they say, and pretty soon it was obvious she was pregnant. And still, because he took her from behind, she still really did not understand what had physically been done to her. It took a pornographic film to make her understand that a penis entered her vagina and ejaculated at the moment she was ovulating. She asked her mother years later why she never told her about sex? She said she assumed if my sisters had not then my friends would. Please don't make these assumptions with your children. Make sure they understand the fragility of sex, the beauty of sex, the responsibility of sex. And with the sexually transmitted diseases that are out there now for God's sake make them get and use condoms. Teen agers are going to have sex. You can't stop it, it feels too good, it's too new and exciting, so at least make sure they are responsible about having sex. Abstinence is wonderful, but a teenagers raging hormones often take over, and common sense leaves them when the sight of their first warm tit shows up. So tell them, tell them all they need to know to enjoy their experience but be safe about it too.